Oh my loves, how I’ve missed you so! I’ve been in a flurry working on the Fashion Design Studio, but with winter festivities right around the corner, Miss Thang is swapping stitches and swatches for bit of seasonal soul searching!
I love the time year from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day. All of the focus on togetherness and positivity helps this occasional drama queen (I’ll admit it!) pack up my problems and express gratitude for all of the great things in my life. Hurray for family, friends, bonbons, and awesome Zwinksters like you!
Below are some letters that were sent to me earlier this year. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you! My hope is that if your problem has been solved, continuing the conversation may help another Zwinky with a heavy heart. Shall we, then? On to your notes!
princessdiwa09 I have this friend,Trinity,and she gets picked on literly everyday on at school.The sick thing is,is that she gets picked on because she’s fat.Well she looks very healthy to me but to other people I guess not. So I just need some advice on how to stop the bullies from messing with her. She will be happy(: Thanks and please reply Bye -Brittany<33
Brittany, Trinity is lucky to have a protector and pal in you! Kudos to you for seeing the beauty of your friend. Hopefully, you’ve had a chance to read our recent posts on dealing with bullies. We provided tips from fellow Zwinkies as well as resources on how to get help for both yourself and others in need. Take a peek and be sure to read the thoughtful comments. Hopefully, you will find something helpful! Now Brit, your letter made me think of a pal of mine, and I hope you don’t mind if Miss Thang digresses just a weensy bit. My amazing gal pal is overweight to the point where her health is in danger. She is a gorgeous person inside and out, but struggles with shedding those pounds. I’ve found that doing subtle supportive things together helps, like having healthy snack plates during our gab fests or taking power walks instead of flopping on the couch. Physical fitness helps everyone be the best they can be, and if we can help a pal get in shape, the better for all!
x-idgaf: Dear Ms Thang, there’s this girl I really like, we have been really good friends, just a couple days ago I told her i like her and she likes me too, but ever since I told her we haven’t been acting the same around eachother, we are boring and we feel just shy. She’s also 2 years older than me, I really want to ask her out but I don’t want it to change our relationship before too bad. I need help, please reply back.
Oh x-idgaf! It can get sticky, can’t it, when deep secrets are revealed! It is perfectly natural for shyness to poke its nose into your love life, especially when you are feeling vulnerable about confessing your crush. Like brave explorers, the only thing to do is soldier on! It’s wonderful that she returns your feelings, so don’t hesitate to ask her out! Go on silly or active dates that demand that you get over your awkwardness. It’s hard to be silent and shy when you’re holding each other up on ice skates or screaming down a roller coaster!
lisabrogen: (* this is a shortened version of the original letter) Hello there, I feel a bit stressed considering my parents are starting to put a lot of pressure on me about my future…they tell me that if I don’t keep my grades up high they will kick me out of the house… My friends don’t want to listen to me nor are willing to help and I feel so alone. Sometimes I waste hours just sitting on my bed, thinking and wondering what would happen if this becomes more severe… What if I can’t concentrate on the important things? Last year I went from a complete bookworm to a slacker because all the personal things that were going on made me constantly stop doing work. I’ve been under so much stress that my hair is starting to change color, I’m only 16 and already have as much silver hair as a 40 year-old woman!
Darling Lisa! It worries Miss Thang to hear you in such a state! It is true that life can sometimes be overwhelming, especially when it feels as though pressure is coming from every corner. But don’t despair! While a shock of silver hair can actually be quite fetching (do we all remember Halle Berry as Storm in X-Men?), feeling lost and alone is not. If you have a moment, please check out the Stress and Coping Center for Teens at KidsHealth.org. It has many wonderful tips on how to stay calm and composed when the world is in a tizzy.
And that’s it for today, my loves! But the conversation doesn’t stop yet! Have a tip on how to get in shape, overcome shyness, or wrangle with stress? Leave a comment below and share your smarts and knowledge with your fellow Zwinks.