Oh, my loves! It’s been far too long. I’m sure your summers have been filled with sunset swoons and poolside playtime. Hopefully you’ve also found time to make a dream or two come true!
Miss Thang has lived through a whirlwind the past few months (navigating it in that perfect pair of platform heels, of course). I apologize for taking so long to get to your letters. Though the questions below came to me earlier this spring, the issues they raise are evergreen in the wild world of love and friendship. So let’s sit down, pull up a cold glass of sweet tea, and chat like old friends. Perhaps together, we can mend a few hurting hearts and bolster some spirits!
On to your notes…1204eman: i have been going out with a guy since valentines day to make him feel better. he is what most people would call a nerd he is short had glasses talks a little wierd and yeah. i like him as a freind but i dont think i could like him more then that. also my friends are pushing me to have him sit by us. its not like i would be embarressed its just there is another guy that likes me he sits at our table!!!! what should i do????? any help????
Ah, eman. Sometimes, what seems like a simple act of kindness can convolute into quite a conundrum! I appreciate your big heart and desire to bolster a buddy’s ego by dating him. However, sometimes the best intentions can backfire. If you don’t really care for this “nerd” as more than a friend, then you are doing him – and yourself – a disservice by faking your feelings. Imagine if you were dating someone who was only pretending to like you in that way. You’d be crushed, and probably embarrassed. Do your nerdy buddy a favor, and be the best FRIEND you can to him. While breaking it off may seem hard in the short term, the long term benefits will be huge. A supportive and loving pal can work more wonders than a lukewarm girlfriend!
92_angel_92: Hey Miss Thang, I’ve always been able to figure my issues out, but… there’s this one constant issue which I’m not able to solve so easily: Confidence. All the way through school, I had none at all… when I hit college it grew a huge amount… However, recent events have knocked it right back… I don’t think I realised this up until yesterday… I’ve found myself questioning my own judgement (Looks, ablilities, personality, being good enough), and I feel as if I may be on the edge of losing all my confidence that took me such a long time to build… I don’t know what to do. Is there any way that I can boost my confidence? I think it’s affecting my College work.
Darling angel, sometimes it feels like the universe is conspiring against us, doesn’t it? The truth is, whether you’re in high school, college, or in the professional world, the daily grind will, in fact, occasionally grind you down. External pressures, random insensitive comments, even that pair of jeans that’s feeling a little tight on the waist can make you question whether you’re as great as you were so sure you were, just a moment ago. It’s the rollercoaster of life, and you can’t stop it. You can just throw your arms up in the air and enjoy the ride, knowing another high point is just around the corner. If you need a bit of help getting there, consider being your own cheerleader. Make a scrapbook with your accomplishments, favorite pictures, diary entries, affirmations, inspirational quotes and notes from besties and loved ones. When you’re feeling blue or doubting your talents, flip through the pages and smile. See? Here’s proof that you’re amazing!
lunalovegood595 Dear Miss Thang, All of my friends have had their first kiss…except for me. I feel like there is something wrong with me not wanting my first kiss yet. Does this make me weird? I feel like i’m waiting for mr. right to come along before i get my first kiss. Can u give me some advice?
Sweet Luna, the trick to having lovegood and not lovebad is to let romance blossom at the pace you are comfortable with. There is absolutely nothing “weird” or “wrong” with you because you want to wait to save special moments for a special someone! In fact, it sounds like you’re doing the absolutely right thing by waiting for Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Here! Kudos to you for sticking to your convictions and not rushing into anything you’re not ready for or not comfortable with. Air kiss to that!
And that’s it for this time! If you have advice for your fellow Zwinks, share the love in a comment below. Until next time!